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Show 1060: How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

Mutual respect, kindness and curiosity can be crucial to maintaining a nurturing relationship. Are you part of an emotionally literate couple?
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How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

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When two people join to form a family, they bring with them lots of habits and expectations based on the families they grew up in. Sometimes these constitute big differences, but more often they are little things. Who does the dishes? Do you agree on how that should be done? How can you keep those details from causing unhappiness and dissension between the two of you?

Making Your Relationship Work:

Clinical psychologist Don Azevedo helps us see how people can establish their own family culture and make it work for them. It may be important to suspend judgment and exercise gentle curiosity about why your partner does things differently from you. We can all benefit from becoming mindful of our own baggage. The principles of kindness, respect and curiosity are basic not only for couples, but for any important relationship.

The Emotionally Literate Couple:

With effort, couples can become emotionally literate and learn to set priorities, share their feelings and appreciate each other. We may need to relinquish the urgency of being right and figure out how to express our respect for our partner. Learn how partners can find creative solutions for their arguments. What can you do to strengthen your relationship every day?

This Week’s Guest:

Don Azevedo, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and founder of Azevedo Family Psychology in Cary, NC. His website is

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Terry Graedon, PhD, is a medical anthropologist and co-host of The People’s Pharmacy radio show, co-author of The People’s Pharmacy syndicated newspaper columns and numerous books, and co-founder of The People’s Pharmacy website. Terry taught in the Duke University School of Nursing and was an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Anthropology. She is a Fellow of the Society of Applied Anthropology. Terry is one of the country's leading authorities on the science behind folk remedies. .
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This advice is great and important for our relationships, but something that is too often left out is whether there might be an issue of alcoholism or other addiction. No relationship skills can work if that is the underlying issue.

Wonderful show. Gave me much to ponder.

So much in this conversation that I can bring in to into my new relationship. It came at just the right time. Won’t be so clueless I hope. :-)

Great information on how to make and keep healthy relationships! It does take work, and by both partners.

I really enjoyed this program this morning. I learned somethings about myself that I need to work on. Thank you for this. I listen to your program every Saturday!

After 52 years of marriage the solutions are obvious:

1. Commit yourself to a marriage. There should be never be any thoughts of separation or divorce, ever.

2. Respect your partner for who they are, what they say, and what they do.

3. Always build, and never destroy, in a marriage.

4. Keep the marriage fresh and young like when you were dating.

5. Always be there for your partner no matter what.

That’s it. Pretty simple to me.

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