clinical psychologist, relationship, lasting relationships

When two people join to form a family, they bring with them lots of habits and expectations based on the families they grew up in. Sometimes these constitute big differences, but more often they are little things. Who does the dishes? Do you agree on how that should be done? How can you keep those details from causing unhappiness and dissension between the two of you?

Making Your Relationship Work:

Clinical psychologist Don Azevedo helps us see how people can establish their own family culture and make it work for them. It may be important to suspend judgment and exercise gentle curiosity about why your partner does things differently from you. We can all benefit from becoming mindful of our own baggage. The principles of kindness, respect and curiosity are basic not only for couples, but for any important relationship.

The Emotionally Literate Couple:

With effort, couples can become emotionally literate and learn to set priorities, share their feelings and appreciate each other. We may need to relinquish the urgency of being right and figure out how to express our respect for our partner. Learn how partners can find creative solutions for their arguments. What can you do to strengthen your relationship every day?

This Week’s Guest:

Don Azevedo, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and founder of Azevedo Family Psychology in Cary, NC. His website is

Listen to the Podcast:

The podcast of this program will be available the Monday after the broadcast date. The show can be streamed online from this site and podcasts can be downloaded for free for four weeks after the date of broadcast. After that time has passed, digital downloads are available for $2.99. CDs may be purchased at any time after broadcast for $9.99.

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Air Date:December 3, 2016

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  1. Louise

    This advice is great and important for our relationships, but something that is too often left out is whether there might be an issue of alcoholism or other addiction. No relationship skills can work if that is the underlying issue.

  2. Adriana
    North Carolina

    Wonderful show. Gave me much to ponder.

  3. Paul Liebert

    So much in this conversation that I can bring in to into my new relationship. It came at just the right time. Won’t be so clueless I hope. :-)

  4. Deb

    Great information on how to make and keep healthy relationships! It does take work, and by both partners.

  5. Dinna

    I really enjoyed this program this morning. I learned somethings about myself that I need to work on. Thank you for this. I listen to your program every Saturday!

  6. Bob

    After 52 years of marriage the solutions are obvious:

    1. Commit yourself to a marriage. There should be never be any thoughts of separation or divorce, ever.

    2. Respect your partner for who they are, what they say, and what they do.

    3. Always build, and never destroy, in a marriage.

    4. Keep the marriage fresh and young like when you were dating.

    5. Always be there for your partner no matter what.

    That’s it. Pretty simple to me.

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