There’s a popular stereotype that guys have only one thing on their minds. SEX!
The implication is that women have to fend men off and that they are much less interested in making love. Based on our unscientific sample, however, the stereotypes are much too simplistic.
Women visiting our Web site ( have shared some incredible stories of frustration. Here are just a few: “You always hear from guys that they would love a girl like me, but put it into practice and you find out quickly that this just isn’t true. I have had a high sex drive since I hit puberty and have never found anyone to match it.
“I have been with the same man for 10 years, and it has always been the same: I am the initiator (95 percent of the time) and the sorely disappointed one (90 percent of the time), night after night. I spend too many nights crying, feeling unattractive and listening to snores come from the other side of the bed.
“Other than this, we get along well, have similar interests and have established a good home. The biggest problem is that we are both in our 30s. I love my husband, but I don’t know if I can deal with this for the rest of my life! I am looking for a way to reduce my sex drive because the rejection is killing me.”
Another woman commented: “I thought I was basically alone in this. I’m a young woman with a very high sex drive. Except for sex, I am in a wonderful relationship.
“I have been with my boyfriend over two years. The first few weeks were bliss, where he actually wanted to make love with me. Since that time, we’ve gone from four or five times a week to MAYBE once every six weeks.
“I’ve dolled up, put on my best lace nightie, and when I walked into the room, he didn’t even notice. He makes me feel so bad for always wanting it, like I’m some sort of weirdo.
“He’s 24. He says he loves me and that he’s still very attracted to me, but there is no proof. He doesn’t even try to initiate anything with me and when I do, I’m rejected. I need something to kill my libido because my ego can’t take any more rejection.”
Apparently this problem is not at all unusual: “I can’t believe so many others know what this is like. My sex drive is slightly above average. My boyfriend’s is well below average.
“Other than the lack of sex, our relationship is perfect. I wish this one thing didn’t hurt so much. We’re both in our mid 30s and healthy. He just doesn’t desire sex.
“On average, we have sex once every six weeks or so. At this point, once a week sounds good to me. It hurts so much to feel so undesired. Even when we do have sex, it’s only to please me. The sex is really good when it happens. Every time we do I get my hopes up that it’ll be more frequent but my hopes are always crushed. That’s why I’m searching for something to kill my sex drive.”
Although there are drugs that dampen libido as a side effect (antidepressants or hormones like progesterone) and herbs (such as chaste tree berry) that also may reduce sex drive somewhat, this type of problem is best addressed with counseling. Even when one partner is not in the mood, he could find a way to satisfy the woman he loves. Who knows, maybe while he’s helping her he may find himself more interested.

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  1. Not alone

    I’m so glad I came across this! I have been with my husband since I was 15 and I have always been a very passionate and sexual person, at first he thought this was great. Back then we would do anything to steal 5 minutes together and couldn’t keep our hands of each other but by the time moved in that was pretty much all gone. He was constantly turning me down and once even told me that he only ever had sex with me to shut me up. We split up briefly but the temporary boost that came when we got back together was short lived. He understandably claimed the lack of sex drive was due to living with my parents and then flat mates, but when we bought our own home things still didn’t improve. He then claimed that me being on the pill was a turn off as we were considering starting a family, but when I eventually came of the pill he said he was then to scared to have sex incase I got pregnant (which was our plan). I know he must have some sort of sex drive because I constantly find links to porn if I ever borrow his phone to Google something and when we talk he claims he would be happy with sex twice a week (I’m lucky if we have sex twice a month) but he’s never interested. I’ve lost all confidence in approaching him for sex and have taken to buying batteries instead.
    The worst part is that this guy is the most caring and considerate guy I have ever know, he is the perfect partner except for his lack of sex drive! Rant over!

  2. KK

    I’m was with the same man for 36 years. I am 58 years old and in a fairly new relationship and realize that we are still in the exploration phase, but, I believe that my extremely hypersexual libido is beginning to become a problem for our relationship. Any suggestions or advice would be welcomed.
    We are completely open and discuss everything. Our sexual encounters have resulted in many “firsts” for me! I’m sure this only heightens my desires. He is willing to do anything it
    takes to satisfy me and we have done things neither of us have done before.

    With all that being said, during our talks, he has stated that we can’t keep up this pace everyday because, after all he does have to work and we are only getting between 4 and 6 hours sleep daily because of this. He has jokingly asked me if I think I might be a nympho? He most recently stated that we should limit things to either morning or night/not both, but he is concerned about leaving me unsatisfied?

    I’ve never experienced this level of desire before in a relationship. We joke about this wearing off, but, my libido, has increased exponentially over the last month or two with no slowing in sight. I believe sometimes he is a little reluctant to initiate things that will get me “started” for fear of the length of time the sexploration will continue.
    I may be wrong, but, I don’t find that keeping it soft and slow until O reduces my desire any differently than hard and fast though I think he believes it intensifies my want for more.
    I am a fairly intelligent woman and realize that 10 to 30 orgasms a day is probably not normal.
    I have been told that I am very orgasmic, very hypersexual with giving as well as receiving (both resulting in my pleasure), and humping even in my sleep even after hours of sex prior to slumber
    I love this man and don’t want to damage this relationship, don’t want to become asexual or be a nympho. PLEASE ADVISE!!!

  3. Jamal

    This is really eye opening to even hear women with high libidos, let alone suffering from it.

  4. Corrina
    Edmonton, AB

    I thought i was alone with this problem. I am a 51 year old woman with a very high sex drive. I am married since aug of this year. My husband an i have been together for three years and I knew his sex drive was low and he knew my sex is very high. I am the initiator 100 % of the time and am turn down cold more often then not. What I dont understand is how he can be so hard its crazy and he can get up and go to work no problem while I’m practically squirming.My husband and I have an amazing relationship, our arguments all stem from the sex problem. I feel very undesirable, unsexy, and he makes me feel like I am a dirty old woman. I am not sure what to do anymore, I love my husband very much but something has got to give.

  5. Priscilla

    Hi all, I’m still early 20’s but I experienced quite a lot. I made a bad decision last time. I moved in with my bf (ex-bf now. Thank God)
    I always tried so hard to get his attention. No matter what I wear, what I did, even I beg for sex, he always said that he is tired. I feel so insecure because of that. I feel not attractive enough, I feel not sexy, it just crushed me. And after 1 year plus. I have decided to break up with him. Cause I realized that its not healthy at all for me. And I want to be happy. So I broke up with him. He was so angry cause he didn’t feel that anything is wrong with our relationship.

    After 7 months single, I found my current bf. He just makes me happy, he is funny, I love his personality, his humour, his look, and he is just so honest about everything. He is not the romantic kind of person who buys me flowers and flatters me all the time. But his action is just breathtaking. I just want to let you all know. That everyone of us deserve to be happy and doesn’t deserve to feel unwanted. We shouldn’t beg for sex. Cause if he loves you, he will be happy to do it. You can request for it sometimes, but he must do it without the feeling that he is obligated to do it. If you are married, I think you should talk to him about it. Or go to a couple’s teraphy. Cause I believe that sex is really important for a happy life. Cheers!

  6. sarah

    I thought I was alone and despite the rejections almost every night he makes me feel like I’m a freak
    Why should I have to argue or discuss why I want him and need him and just doesn’t get it he just doesn’t feel like it Hurst so much the pain is crucial and feel ugly and gross I can’t take it anymore

  7. CJ

    After being out of a relationship for about 7 years, I have finally met an awesome guy in which I really want to be with. I am not into casual sex, and problems with my sex drive had not been an issue when celibate. But now that I am with someone I really like, my sex drive has taken over in a big way (my last relationship was like that too). Problem is this relationship is new and having a high sex drive is interfering with it. In fact, it may put an end to it. My partner has asked me to slow down, stating it is “overwhelming”. I think he understands that I am struggling with it, and that I would desperately like to suppress it in order to give this relationship a fair chance. I am going to speak with my doctor, and start drinking spearmint tea (read somewhere 2 cups a day may work). I thought about chasteberry, but heard it only works on reducing men’s libido.

  8. Maris
    Lacey, WA

    I am incredibly young (early twenties) and my husband and I have been together since we were seventeen. You would think since we are so young and early in our marriage (year and a half) that the sex would be frequent and enjoyable.
    I feel silly, especially after reading some of the comments, but we have sex maybe once a week and I practically have to beg for it. And whenever it is we have sex it’s short and only satisfy in the sense of it gets the jobs done but isn’t toe curling.
    I absolutely hate having to ask for it all the time and only to still have him find some way out of it.

  9. Sara
    Seattle, WA

    I’ve suffered from having higher sex drive than most of my partners all my life. It makes me crazy to see the media portrayal of sex-crazed men. I think it’s a sop to male ego to think of themselves as always wanting and being ready for sex. Not only me, but most of the women I know want sex more than our partners. Now that I’m over 60, I know of a lot of couples who just don’t have any at all, due to the man’s inability or disinterest. Sad. This is one of the great free things of life! In my own life, what has helped is a regular “date” of once a week so I have something to look forward to. He is tired in the evenings and I’m not a morning person, so we have Sunday afternoons as our play time. If I didn’t set this up, I don’t think we would have sex for weeks and weeks at a time. He is not interested in testosterone evaluation, more’s the pity.

    • jes

      I am 24 I’ve been with my partner 1year and 2months and my partner has a very low sex drive too and I also have to beg for it , besides the sex life we have a brilliant relationship I adore him and so does my little one I feel so bad being rejected it feels so good too see there is others women out there that are dealing with this too ? x

  10. Joan

    I was single all through my 20’s and had a very active and satisfying sex life with several different partners and one long term relationship. It seemed that men were only interested in sex and not much else. Then I met the man who would become my husband. We had sex a couple of times a week but, while comforting and cuddly, he never could nor had the desire to satisfy my need to orgasm. I justified the situation because I love him and he is a wonderful person in so many ways who is very appreciative of me and my efforts in work, home, my appearance, etc. Now, after more than 20 years together his sex drive is just about non existent. When it does happen every few months it’s a quickie on a weekend morning that lasts maybe 3 minutes. Although I’ve talked with him many times about my need for affection, which doesn’t have to include intercourse, I’m slowly dying inside from the physical rejection. I’ve come to believe that he has deep seated hang ups about sex or he would at least have a desire to satisfy me. I’ve even asked outright if he is gay and he adamantly denies it, but I wonder even though I’ve never seen him exhibit any indicative behavior. I’ve also realized that his selfishness in bed does spill over into other parts of our life. I’m actually glad menopause is starting because I care less. So, my take away from all of this is that if I had it to do over again I would not have married this man. There were signs of his lack of interest when we were younger but because I love him and we were building a life together I stuck with him. To the woman who posted that is soon to be married to such a person my advice it to think carefully and be honest with yourself about what you need and realize that he will not change. Once your life is intertwined over the course of decades leaving is so complicated you may find yourself where I am. I’m glad that at least I’m not alone – reading these posts is somehow comforting and I realize I’m not crazy.

  11. Edward
    Salisbury, UK

    With no doubts at all after talking to loads of male friends and certainly more than five Doctors. The stress of office life is a key factor. The change since I started in the City in 1968 is pretty dramatic.

  12. Kar

    My 32 year old bf has zero desire for sex. I think he might be gay. I’m in my 40s and in my prime. He is a great guy in every way but says he doesn’t feel a great sensation from orgasming. I’m lost he can’t even enjoy masturbation. It’s not normal. I love him and he loves me but this is destroying me. I’ve tried to talk to him he swears he is not gay and I know he loves me but sex is a chore for him. It takes so much to get him aroused and then it’s so hard for him to orgasm. And if and when he does orgasm he doesn’t moan or say a word.
    So hurt n lost n lonely and mad.

    Lost in love

  13. carla

    Can not believe I am not the only one going through this! I thought I was some type of weirdo with some kind of hormonal imbalance. I have never been so jealous of a computer screen. My husband and I have had many arguments about how low his sex drive is and how high mine is… Yet I have always had a hard time believing that he has a low drive when he always seems to make time to please himself.

    Why not just take care of it with me?? It always leaves me thinking that there’s something wrong with me. Being rejected so many times has taken a toll on my self-esteem. But I am just glad I’m not alone.

  14. Darrel

    My thoughts are, and clarify they are my thoughts from a man’s perspective. Men are much more fragile then women realize in my ego Department expecially when it comes to sex. Many times a woman with a high sex drive may appear to the man as not being sexually satisfied by him. Men need to be confirmed verbally a lot, that they are satisfying their spouse. So if it comes off unknowingly by the wife to the husband as in more means not satisfied or afterwards there’s no confirmation of satisfaction then it can drive the man away. My suggestion is that wife let them know the reason why there and such a high drive is because you turn me on husband I want you you satisfy me you rock my world and I want more more. I think a man that desires his wife and feels like he is putting it down wants it more. I guarantee you that most of the cases a feeling of inadequacy. The other case could be sexually just low on testosterone and he ain’t got it and may need supplements things like that

    • Michael
      Stratford Ontario

      This is fascinating, as there is such a variety of sexual appetites. Just before I was married, sex was every day, often more than once. Moments after marriage, this ended immediately. I could not believe it, as I wanted to have sex each night before we slept, (and still the odd time spontaneously). Well it came down to mercy sex once a month, and finally after 14 years I had to leave the marriage (not just over the sex) however. I am 58 now, and I still want to have sex every day. I want to find a partner that would enjoy love making at least two or three (or more) times a week. This is difficult, but I think there is nothing better for the mind, body and soul. It is healthy but the drives appear to vary so much. Good luck to all.

  15. Michelle

    There’s nothing wrong with you. Any of you women with this “abnormal, high sex drive.” That’s bullshit. You aren’t a nympho. A real sex addict needs sex in a much different way than craving their significant other through out the day. Ditch the guy. If he wants a girl with no libido, which would actually be abnormal then good luck to him. Women are very sexual beings. It’s biological. Also, his unwillingness to please you sexually has zero to do with the way you look. His abnormally low libido is the problem. Find a guy with a normal libido, or request your guy get checked for a heart problem. Ladies, top blaming yourself for your jerk boyfriends.

  16. Renee

    OMG…. I’m not the only one…. So what do I do now, though. I’m going crazy.

  17. Sandra

    I’m only 25 my s.o. Is 28. We have been together for five years. Sex was great for the first year but, I later learnt that it was a show to try to keep me. Now, im lucky if its once a week. My sex drive has always been extremely high. I try porn but I feel gross and guilty after, I’m not sure what to do anymore. I feel his constant rejection is killing my lust for him. I recently began to feel grossed out by sexual touching and kissing, only on occasion, but is occurring more often. I know I am young and I can find someone else but, his constant “I’m in pain, it’s killing the mood “, is killing it for me, and making me feel ugly and unwanted. I try to scare him by telling him about the men hitting on me. I think that is a lost cause. I’m running out of options, and am having a hard time weighing out if it’s worth it.

  18. Amonre
    San Diego

    I’m glad I found this site and all the comments… I felt frustrated and alone for the past two years or maybe three…I just know that ever since we bought a house his sex drive is so much lower than mine. I don’t think I’m even asking for much. Since we are so busy with work and social life, 2-3 times a week is decent for me….now its more like 1 time every 2 weeks. He doesn’t like me nagging about it so my next step is to stop and see if he initiates…. it will be hard because I am so verbal… I think I saw some warning signs in terms of his culture and how his parents relationship was terrible growing up (his dad had mistresses every moment he could and his mom always took him back)… We have been together for 24 years and he always initiated in the beginning… I always thought when we got older sex woukd be more frequent and its not. I would like to grow old with him…but I am in my prime and I keep fantasizing about having a secret lover but I don’t believe in living a lie. Perhaps therapy and a physical checkup on his end will help us get back to normal. I don’t think we all should live our lives suffering over something that makes us connected and is readily accessible. I would give up my over priced home for more sex and intimacy back in the smaller apartment… We have no children and he has a stable job…no time for an affair..but he does play video games for hours on end…all he says is that he is tired all the time and I go to bed too late. I have even tried initiating on weekend morning’s… Once in a while that works… Stay tuned…

  19. Sarah

    I know this feeling all to well, but, what has made it worse is porn. I’ve never minded it until recently, I watch it myself from time to time. Lately though, I’ve found my boyfriend far more likely to jerk off to porn then try to initiate anything. What worse is now I’m so screwed up I don’t even know if I can initiate. He says I’m far to interested in sex, and when were not having it we fight. But, instead of allowing himself to maybe feel pent up and horny he watches porn. I’m losing my mind. I need to feel like he wants to indulge that he feels like I’m attractive, but, I’ve hit the point where I’ve stopped trying to ask for it, and I’m not getting it. I love him… I love him so much, but, I need sex. I’ve never felt jealous of a computer before, but, now… now I feel like shit as soon as he excuses himself to his computer chair.

    I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to say that I need it, because he’s put something out there that says I’m too focused… but, I don’t want to anything dumb.

    • Lauren

      I am in the exact same situation! I have a high sex drive, I would love to do it at least once a day, but unfortunately my boyfriend prefers to masturbate to porn. It just makes me feel so disgusting and ugly, cause from what I understand he was very sexual in his past relationships, but 90 percent of the time I initiate I get rejected. I just dont know what to do anymore. I shouldnt have to compete with every random hooker that puts her bare ass on the internet. Im pretty sure if tbe situation was reversed, and i was leaving him sexually neglected in favor of a vibrator this would be a whole other story. Im pretty sure whoever said that women have lower sex drives was just the man rejecting them trying to condone their behavior.

    • Carol
      San Diego

      I’ve had similar experiences. Women should read the writing on the wall the minute a man advises them that they need sex too often, that there is something wrong with them for having strong sexual desires. To me this is a control issue. Withholding sex, denying sex and judging the wanting partner for wanting it is just a dishonest method of fighting. Passive aggression. You cannot win an argument that is disguised as something else. Chances are that whatever is going on in his head has little or nothing to do with YOU. Please try to find a way to break away from this type of relationship. It’s pretty much guaranteed that you will lose the ability to experience joy with this type of man. If your lover refuses to see a doctor or therapist (with or without you) about an issue that is so damaging, your relationship is already dead except for the “amen.” Leave while you still have an ego. Leave before you feel an absolute need to have other men take sexual notice of you in order to feel desired. Leave before you take them up on it, possible to your own peril. Like yourself again and just leave.

  20. Stacy

    As far back as I can remember, my sex drive has always been very high. I have struggled with a sex addiction for all of my adult life. It has caused me to do some risky things in early adulthood. I have since then learned how to manage it enough to where I am not making bad decisions or frankly, looking for my next lay. It is very difficult to explain this part of me to someone, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. It has been an issue with virtually every man I have been with. I am 33, in a long term exclusive relationship with a 21 year old guy… and sometimes he can’t even handle me. I am hesitant to try medications because I fear that I won’t be myself. I do find comfort in knowing that I am not alone, nor some sort of mutant. Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences!

  21. Lulu

    Meaning since my first sex encounter of 19 years old and my first thoughts and feelings of pleasure since the age of 7 or 8.

  22. Lulu
    Fort William, Ontario, Canada

    I’m 51 years old. I have been having sex since I was 19 years old. I have an extremely high sex drive and it has never stopped. Not a day goes by that I do not want an orgasm or at least 3. Now I can control it, (don’t want to, but I can) and not leave the house without having 3 orgasms before I leave for work, but I rarely do. Having the ‘O’ is so good for your immune system and your outlook on life that if there is no man around (in the morning there never is because I don’t do sleep overs) then I take care of it myself. Nothing like a man and the real thing, so thank goodness there’s plenty of that to do around in the evening and on the weekends. But it consumes my private thoughts when I’m on break, driving, shopping, sleeping. When I work I work and always concentrate on that, but I am continually vibrating and ready to go. Some men that that I have been with find this unbelievable. Some men that I haven’t been with feel the same. They call me the energizer bunny. I don’t think it’s a problem, but I surprise myself at times that I have been this way since before my first sex encounter. At least since the age of 7 or 8.

  23. Jayne

    I thought I, was a nympho at one time. But think about it, he knew you were like this when you met him. Maybe he feels he can’t keep up! It is not that he is not interested! His pride is in the way. Other men do find you lovely. He enjoys that attention. But unless he is Idris Elba, he may not have it in that department. Your hormones are working overtime and some medications can control them. If this has interfered with you mental well-being then ask a psychiatrist. A medical doctor, at least here in America, will think you don’t have a problem. Certain anti-depressants will help with may very well be a sex addiction. For me, I knew that this was taking way too much of my life. I did what my mother told me to do, I prayed on it for two weeks. One morning I work up, it was gone, forever. Not that I don’t like sex, but it is no longer if I don’t have it I will explode issue for me. It does not run my life anymore, and does not define who I am. I used to be afraid of it coming back, which is why many pretty women become fat, but I am no longer shamed by my former sexuality. I learned moderation is the key to everything.

    • Soraya

      Thank you for your posting. In fact I did pray abt my sex drive that outdoes my husband’s. One night very fervently and a few following nights I prayed that He would grant the request. It seemed to work for a while but again my desire consumes me. Not only that but also now I’m resentful at my husband how unfair and insensitive he has been with me. I feel conquered by this chain and my bitterness….

  24. UnhappyBride

    I’m about to get married in a few months and this is an ongoing problem that really upsets me. There is definitely not enough advice or enough studies about higher sex drives in women. The bulk of advice I’ve read is about men’s higher sex drives and women struggling with that and it makes me feel abnormal and undesirable. I’m 31 and when we first got together (5 years ago), we were having great, regular sex. I really thought I’d met someone who I was going to have amazing sex with for the rest of my life and it would only get better. The truth is, we now only have sex 2-3 times/month and I’m in desperate need for more sex. If I try to broach the subject, he gets annoyed and says he would be more in the mood if I didn’t bring it up and it’s not ‘attractive’ to hear me speak that way. I’ve tried everything. I’ve tried his approach and nothing changes. We do bicker and I’m a passionate person, so I say what I think, but we also have a very loving relationship and have a lot of fun together. It puts worries in my mind about marrying him, but I don’t want to leave him. We love each other to bits and there is a lot of cuddling, holding hands, kissing every day (but he’s usually just interested in a peck). I’ve even started to worry he’s gay, but don’t think he is. Then I question my sexual abilities, but have never had that feeling from other partners. I seem to be attractive to other men and he tells me he is very attracted to me, so why no sex? It really dents my confidence…particularly when I initiate and he turns me down (I’ve never experienced that before). Help!! Does anyone else feel this way or is in a similar situation? Please share.

    • sohappyiamnotalone
      United Kingdom

      @unhappybride I am exactly in the same situation as you are- except I am not about to marry my ‘lazy’ man. He is a lovely boyfriend that cuddles and kisses me, just not having sex, at all! I am satisfying myself, but it doesn’t compare with the real thing and I also feel guilty, but I can’t help it because being horny all the time makes me go mad.. Don’t feel unattractive, you said it yourself- other men notice you!

      • Stephen fairbrother

        Dont mean to pick you out of a crowd but posted comment stood out to me. I pleasure mysef as you do but I do it because if I don’t I am like a sexual predator. I hound my partner for sex and make her feel bad but as well it’s not enough. Do you think we are selfish or do you agree with me and think a partner should give sex when ever. Beause I’m always on standby just in case

    • Lauren

      This one explained my situation completely! Especially the bringing it up aspect, we try to not mention it for a few weeks and nothing changes! they just seem happy we’ve stopped. We wear sexy undies, we shave all kinds of dif ways, we change our hair, we lose weight… And nothing. We know they love us, as we love them, but we just can’t comprehend why they don’t want to have sex. I hope their becomes a cure for this in the future. I’ve had the coil fitted as I’ve heard that can lower the drive! I’ll keep you all posted.

      Hope you had a lovely wedding and fingers crossed your problem’s fixed. I think couples counselling is probably the best route for us all, it can give your guy the opportunity to see that we aren’t sex crazy or asking for the world. :) x

    • Jennifer

      Feels like I’m reading my own story… Thank you for sharing. I am getting immense help and comfort from reading these ladies’ stories here. Even how your partner reacts and says is the same. Guess this issue is universal across ethnicity, culture, and age. I know it is painful but I would reconsider the marriage. It wreaks havoc on the marriage. My husband and I are just perfect except the sex issue (at least to me. He doesn’t realize how serious this issue is. No ideas it’s to this extent. It’s killing me secretly.)
      He is in early 40s and tells me his friends couples have sex once a month etc. Some of those couples don’t have sex for the entire pregnancy, etc. my sex drive is making me feel even more miserable and rejected since I became pregnant. My husband abstains (not even abstain bc it doesn’t require any control or effort for him not to have sex) from sex since we discovered the pregnancy.

  25. daisy

    Like every one else I have a very high sex drive my partner & I have been together for 3 years and have 2 children together, the 1st week was great, but now there is nothing once every 2 or 3 months it’s killing me he doesn’t even do anything when it comes to sex just lays on his back doing nothing, while I do all the work, he doesn’t do anything else literally no oral or even touching, I can’t handle it anymore, we fight a lot & I think this could be why I wish there was something I could do but I can’t handle this anymore

  26. P

    Here’s the thing, I’d love to figure out how to recognize others with a higher than average libido.
    Like these ladies, unfortunately, I’ve always had a high libido.
    I wish, and I’m sure these ladies would agree, that there was some research that could show what to look for in people’s personalities that might give a “wise” person an inkling of an idea, that the person he/she is dealing with is a good candidate for a higher level of sexual activity.

    It does get soooooo very frustrating not being satisfied in this area. After all –
    This Level of INTIMACY is huge in a relationship… At least, it is to me!

    Does anyone know of any study done or have any thoughts on how to increase
    the chance of being with a similar person? If you do I’d surely like to hear!

    PS: Like several of the ladies here… I too am into monogamous relationships only.

  27. Pee

    Ooo! So I’m not in this alone? Women; we are suffering. I developed interest in sex after birth. We’ve married for two years but together for twelve years. We are in our late twenty’s, he was very active in sex when we were dating but i was not and he made me like it . Now that i want to do it more he is always busy with work or tired and rans from it. I always have to initiate it. At time he even says my sex drive is too high therefore he will stop doing it and sleep. We sometimes do it once in a week or in two weeks. So what should I do because I love him soo much and don’t want to leave?

  28. Angela

    I am 39 years old and my husband is 32. I have a very high sex drive and I feel like it’s unnormal! We have been married 8 years but together 13 years. We have 4 children and life is great but not the sex. We use to have sex 4-5 times a day and now it’s 3-4 times a week and that’s still not enough for me. His sex drive has went down since he started on his high blood pressure medicine and he barely wants it. I’m going crazy!! I don’t want no one else but him and I need help because I’m constantly lusting for him.

    • Carson

      Angela, a close female friend had the same problem, she was constantly craving sex and her husband was exhausted. She had to have it several times a day! Finally she tried the right mixture of herbal treatment and her drive reduced down to a more manageable level. Try a doctor that is into herbal medicine. Your strong drive can be controlled.

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