a couple with sex problems

Q. I am a 35-year-old woman who lives a very active and busy life. I work three jobs and have a family with three teenage boys.

The problem is that within the last two years my sexual drive has dwindled down to NOTHING. I love my man and I used to love having sex at least twice a week. Now it’s maybe once or twice a month.

My husband has never once complained to me about it. He too says he has noticed a drop in our sex life but when we do make love our time together is most wonderful and breathtaking.

I’ve been on Wellbutrin XL for two years now for stress and anxiety. I’ve also been taking Adipex (phentermine) to lose weight. It has helped me lose 40 pounds. (I exercise and eat right, too.) So why hasn’t my sex drive increased? I wish I could get my libido back.

A. It is possible that your weight loss drug could have affected your sex drive. Changes in libido are reported with phentermine.

We are sending you our Guides to Female Sexuality and Drugs that Affect Sexuality with information about testosterone and other approaches to increasing desire.

Sexual interest may be one of the first casualties of overwork. You and your husband may need to talk about this issue and see if there is some way to carve out a little time to relax together.

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