Check your email and chances are you will find spam. Even with a filter to block out unwanted messages, some junk slips through. These ads frequently offer to enhance your sex life.

But what if you don’t want a more active sex life? We frequently hear from women who would prefer to dampen their partners’ desire: “Can saltpeter lower a man’s sex drive? If not, is there a natural herb that will?”

Saltpeter (potassium nitrate) has been used in fertilizer and fireworks. It was also used at one time to cure meats. Although it has a reputation for lowering libido, this is a myth. Potassium nitrate could be dangerous if consumed, however. It can cause kidney damage or anemia as well as headaches and digestive distress.

As for natural herbs to reduce libido, there is only one we know of. It is chaste tree berry (Vitex agnus-castus). This herb was known as “monk’s pepper” and was purportedly used to dampen libido in the Middle Ages.

Women aren’t the only ones who are interested in suppressing sex drive. One reader recently contacted us with this question: “I desperately need your help. Neither my primary doctor nor my psychiatrist is interested, so I turn to you.

“What can I take to reduce my libido? I have a lovely wife who for the last seven years has not been interested. She is the only person in my life. Your input on this would help keep me from driving myself nuts as well as her. I’m currently taking lithium, sertraline, lorazepam and trazodone. After the ridicule both doctors put me through, I certainly hope you can help.”

Your physicians should not be giving you any grief, especially since the combination of medicines you are taking could be hazardous. What’s more, trazodone may be aggravating your situation.

Ask a urologist or a specialist in sexual medicine whether a medication for prostate enlargement might be safe for you. Drugs such as Avodart or Proscar can sometimes lower libido as a side effect. That is because they block the conversion of testosterone to dihydrotestosterone (DHT).

Progesterone is another hormonal treatment that may be useful in suppressing sexual interest. This drug does have numerous side effects, however, so you will need to discuss it in detail with your physician. The herb Vitex appears to have a mild, progesterone-like effect and may be safer.

Counseling is essential, regardless of drug treatment. Although your wife is not interested, physical intimacy is usually part of a wholesome relationship. Invite your wife to join you in therapy with an expert who specializes in human sexuality.

We would like to send you a CD of a recent hour-long radio show interview we did with one of the country’s leading experts in sexual medicine. Irwin Goldstein, MD, is Director of Sexual Medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego and Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Sexual Medicine. During the interview, he addressed problems of both high and low libido as well as erectile dysfunction and other sexual problems.

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  1. CM
    Australia
    Reply

    This thread is a life saver. I never knew that so many other people are going through the same thing. I’m 46 and today is our 16th anniversary. I’m writing this while my man is next to me asleep and I’ve just wet the pillow with my silent tears. His libido is SO much lower than mine, it has pretty much always been an issue. In the beginning I thought it was due to him being quite shy sexually and having been abused. I thought time would help him out of his shell. But unfortunately, that didn’t prove to be the case.

    He is the most lovely, caring, gorgeous human being, and I love him with all of my heart. Thus I’m still with him even though his lack of libido is slowly killing me. Until this relationship I never knew what ‘Blue Balls’ were. And, yes, we girls sure can get them, too. Debilitating cramps and aches that last for hours. If unlucky, I will still have them in the morning waking up. And you can guess how that sets you up for the day….. Don’t get me wrong, he loves me and finds me very attractive and tells me many times a day. But nearly every sexual encounter has to be initiated by me and if I don’t, it could be many months before he’d make a move. I’m bisexual, up for anything and would do anything you could think of, which for the majority of guys would be a dream come true. But my lovely lad just doesn’t have the libido and generally is very vanilla. Thus I’ve had to scale down my libido and expectations to try and match his, hoping that my desire would slowly wither. No luck on that department. The only thing withering is my spirit – though also a victim of abuse, I always felt sure in my sexuality, vivacious and desirable. Now I feel a mere shadow of my former self, a sad spectre, hoping for a physical connection once in a blue moon. This has led to quite a bit of self-loathing and my inner demons are whispering the same old mantras they used to when a teenager – you are fat/ugly/undesirable, if you were truly sexy he would desire you, you have failed as a woman. And I know I’m ok, have plenty of other admirers, who’d jump at the chance. Even though I have the liberty to go ‘somewhere else’, I’m not interested as I want only him. And now – with all my low self esteem – I wouldn’t have the confidence anymore. Also can’t do the one night stand thing, as for me there has to be love involved. Catch 22.

    Don’t know how to resolve this – have tried to get him medical help (one thing didn’t work and he gave up) and have also asked two doctors for meds to kill my sex drive. Neither of them really took it seriously and I felt embarrassed and humiliated. On the verge of tears nearly begging them to stop my sex urge. Not a good experience. Thus I’ve become quite depressed at times, something that was never the case before. I loathe it all so much. Hate that I’ve come to loathe my sex drive and hate my need for his love, which binds me to this relationship. Hate myself for being too weak to leave him, as both our love is so strong. Hate that he somehow doesn’t see the need to change things, fulfill me, make our sex life great (I’d settle for average). Just don’t know what to do.

    To the outside world I’m this strong, gorgeous woman in this fabulous relationship and 99.9% of people would be mortified to know the truth. I have tried talking to friends, but it’s really hard to confide this issue, especially when you then realize everyone else is getting plenty.
    A pretty good way to describe things – living with a gourmet cook but only getting peanut butter sandwiches, and starving at that. At times I hate him for being so apathetic about it and letting me suffer. Also hate that I’ve learned to cry silently and that tears will appear at random times. Learnt to hide my misery to the outside world as otherwise even more pathetic.

    So grateful to have found this site – thank you all for listening to my ravings, tonight this has saved my sanity and hopefully now I can actually fall asleep in a little less pain.
    My thoughts go out to you all, my fellow suffers of denied sensuality.

    • Constantin
      Ukraine
      Reply

      I don’t know how to help you, but just wanted to say that I am very sympathetic towards what you are going through. I do not think you are weak because of not leaving him. Your loyalty is admirable.

      • Athena
        Dallas
        Reply

        As I read your post, tears streamed down my face. I know how awful this sounds, but it was almost a joyful experience to discover that I am not the only person in the world with this problem. I have said these exact words. I pride myself on being a strong, independent woman and find myself feeling fat, ugly, pathetic and weak. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It has truly touched my heart to know that I am not alone. Have you found anything at all that has helped since your post?

    • Jeric
      Alabama
      Reply

      I wonder if this comment is fake. I’ve been reading articles everywhere looking for safe ways to stop wanting sex, and I invariably run into these comments from “women” who claim that they can’t get their man to have sex with them. I just don’t buy it. I’d have sex with my wife any time, any place, any position, any screwed up fetish she wants. She won’t even let me touch her tits. She orgasms just about every time I do manage to pry her legs apart, but apparently, that doesn’t generate future desire.

      The idea that there are ‘men’ out there who won’t get it on is simply unimaginable. No offense, but I think that these posts are ghostwritten by people at Ashley Madison, etc. to try to convince guys like me that there is hope out there in the land of infidelity.

      I’ve been watching my wife become less and less interested in sex year after year. She assures me it is natural, and that it is my fault. I’m an attractive, healthy man. I’m a self-employed professional that does fairly well and I dare say that I provide a lifestyle that a lot of women would be happy to have. None of this matters.

      I wish there was an anti-viagra. A pill that just made me not sexual at all. If cutting your balls off was reversible, I’d do it in a heartbeat. Is there any real hope for us married to frigid shrews?

    • Craig
      Reply

      Wow you hit the nail right on the head my wife is the same way as your husband I found this site because I was looking for ways to kill my sex drive. I’m so depressed from the constant rejection I wish I had no desire for sex at all I wish I had words of encouragement but its all I can do to just not jump off a bridge

  2. GM
    Reply

    This is a great site. So glad I found it. Nice to know your not alone

    • Lebome B
      south africa
      Reply

      I need help too. I just want a way of kill or lowering my libido. I don’t want to loose my wife because she cannot keep up with my high level of sex drive. Please help.

  3. useless
    Reply

    All I can say is NEVER GET MARRIED! I wrecked my life by marrying.
    I’m in my 30s & he’s 40. I laugh at people here complaining about only a few times a week or monthly. I’d love to get laid that often!
    I’m lucky if I get once a year, after begging of course. I’ve told him since he can’t man up and do his job, I’m going to find it elsewhere. He’s left me no choice. I see the only way to kill libido is with antidepressants. I can’t take them, they make me looney (as I don’t need them, but I have tried them).
    I’d love to know of something I could take to make me hate sex like normal people. Don’t ruin someone’s life by lying to them pretending to like sex when you actually hate it, then wonder why they cheat on you.

  4. JB
    Reply

    This is very similar to my problem. Only one child. In my forties involved in a very loving relationship with a man I would like to spend the rest of my life with. He is on a long list of medication that kills his sex drive. Mine is through the roof. I would be happy if I could make love with him twice a day and am lucky if I can convince him twice a month. I am trying not to get hurt, but I need some help.

  5. Busbyduf
    Reply

    I see your post was 5 years ago, what was the answer in the end?

  6. PJ
    Reply

    I must say after reading all of you comments, it’s nice to know that you are sharing your frustrations and trying to find answers. I’m not married, but have a sex drive when I am not on antidepressants.
    To be honest, I could see myself living with a person whom I loved for the rest of my life, but as for sex, I think it would get old fast. I’m not sure that I understand, the wanting to have sex with the same person every time. Though that is my belief system, I don’t believe on cheating. I just think I would get to a point where it was old.
    I haven’t read all of the postings, but it maybe that you need to start to communicate better with one another. For those with low sex drives, you my have low hormones, or maybe you are depressed, or have another thing going on, anxiety, too much going on, constantly worrying, you may not feel sexy any more, there is a whole host of things that can make your sex drive low, even the medications you take.
    Those with high sex drives, I don’t know what to tell you, I mean antidepressant can surely put a damper on your sex drive, but I am not really into using meds, for something like that unless it was a last resort.
    It seems to me, that both parties need to communicate more, what there needs are, and why they don’t feel they want sex. I would definitely look for a good sex therapist, to maybe help you find some areas that maybe causing you a problem, and I would also see about going to a specialist doctor, probably an endocronologist and having your hormones checked. Maybe something is out of balance. I believe using hormones to bring things into balance should be taken with serious consideration, as hormones can cause problems. But if you need them you need them. I have to take them because my body isn’t making as much as I am supposed to have. Please don’t give up on your relationships, without first doing some detective work and seeing deep into what might be going on. Each of us have different needs, and you may just have to do a little more give and take on each side. I wish you all the best. I hope that we can all find a solution to our issue.

  7. PB
    Reply

    I’ve been married now for 5 years and after 2 children my loving wife’s sex drive has dropped, where mine has always been very high. I was wondering is there any way to lower a mans sex drive, if so what??

    • KK
      FL
      Reply

      Definitely feel better reading your posts. I was told guys only want one thing as a kid but can’t seem to find guys that do. I would love to have sex 3 or 4 times a day and could be good with 2 but I am in a relationship where once every 3 days is what I get. I started to watch gay guy porn just to help entertain me but I need the real thing. I love my boyfriend but he always tired from work and I get lonely at night when he’s asleep.

  8. Melisa
    Reply

    I want to say that my lover left me in April. During one long month I have contacted many casters and bought almost ten spells without results. My ex wouldn’t contact me, wouldn’t answer my calls and emails. But I never lost hope because I knew we were soul mates. Dr. Abu cast the most wonderful spell for me 2 weeks ago and everything has changed since then. We are close to each other again and he is calling me many times everyday. Thank you Dr. Abu of Ominighospelltemple@gmail.com, your help is very appreciated! I will keep in touch.

  9. Eileen Moore
    Reply

    It sounds like a physical issue. I suggest that she makes a doctors appointment and find out what the problem is. I will be praying for both of you.

  10. Notmyrealname
    Reply

    I have been married for 12 years and for the first 5 years our sex life was great. We struggled to have our first (and only) child and once she was born our intimate contact generally got worse and worse. Then after a family issue I can honestly say I have not had real sex with my wife for the best part of 2 years.
    I am dedicated to my lady and have to bash myself over the raft of muchly appreciated sites out there, its just a shame that sex cannot be taken out of the relationship as I would love to meet a lady who is equally as committed to her partner but just has the same drive I do and keep my wife but sadly I am destined for sexless marriage. I am slowly going mad, have searched pretty much every bit of smut out there and think I have seen it all now to the point where I think I have to have the real thing.
    I think it will end up with me going crazy or ending my marriage as the feeling of frustration to me is like being in a nice car but having no petrol to drive so I’m stuck in the seat and cannot do anything else. I waste so much time on adult sites to.. messed up 37 year old :-(

  11. Romantic ... to me
    Reply

    To me romance is…
    When you notice that I’m pretty. So when we are getting ready to go out, you mention how good I look (not how good you look… ). Say you like her legs, her eyes, her hair looks good today. She has a nice neck, nose, skin, you love her voice, she smells good and you can’t get enough of it. Say anything that shows you noticed how attractive she is. You only need to say one or two of those things a day. Say something that indicates that you see her and she looks good.
    Do not say you think other women are attractive, do not be looking at other women when your woman is on your arm or out with you. Don’t be crass. Don’t criticize other women. Be nice.
    Touch her the way she wants to be touched, not like petting a dog. Don’t scratch her with a jagged nail. Her skin is soft and delicate and needs to be treated softly and tell her you like her soft skin and how she smells. Bring her a glass of wine or champagne. Touch her gently and hopefully at some point she will tell you she likes how you touch her, and then keep touching her that way. Maybe offer to give her a back massage. Wait for it and she will hopefully smile gently and you will know that’s a good way. If you pet her like a dog/cat or don’t touch her in a way that she likes, she will avoid being touched. Really listen to her gentle messages.
    If she doesn’t give you gentle messages, ask her to tell you what she likes. You try something and she doesn’t have to say stop (because she won’t want to criticize you), but ask her to let you know with a smile or a sound that lets you know when you are touching her in a good way.
    At some point, women also like you to get more physical and strong… but the romance part starts the first moment you see her in a day. Say something about what’s pretty about her.
    Every time you tell her something about her is pretty/attractive to you (if you do that even once a day), she will begin to know that in your opinion, she is the one who does it for you.
    Just being ready may make her feel like you could be looking at a magazine or a stranger. Having only eyes for her and saying it can help…
    I’m one of the people on this discussion who was told, ‘just tell me when you are interested…’ and most important when we go out, is how good he looks. Never a compliment to me unless I ask how I look. That’s not romantic.
    Just sharing with you what I wish I could hear every day. Just one comment when leaving the house or when I get home would be so romantic! I hope this helps you and your loving wife.

  12. pplxd
    Reply

    Been interesting and comforting to know there are many out there, men and women, in same sort of predicament. My wife and I have had several amicable and positive discussions about the minimal sexual relations in last 10 yrs of our 30+ year marriage. Her lack of interest but preparedness to satisfy me is appreciated and reassuring, and I think shows that our relationship is solid on love if not sex.
    But when we do get start to get intimate, I can’t get my brain past the ‘she’s not REALLY interested’ frame of mind and that gets in the way, for me at least. It’s not a matter of rejection or lack of desire on my part – I just don’t want to do things to her when, by my perception at least, she’s not really interested. And I definitely don’t want to hurt her, physically or emotionally.
    A recent discussion brought out that there needs to be more ‘romance’ involved. I’m a guy – what does romance really mean? In the movies it usually means the stars end up in bed! Any women out there with any [polite] definitions / suggestions / recommendations? For many years the standing joke between us was….. He’s breathing – He’s ready for sex !!. In many ways that is still true – but maybe getting older (mid 50’s) is the problem…. maybe we start to think too much? Thinking things like… Is this what she wants? What does she want? Am I being anything like romantic?
    Comments and suggestions welcome and appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this mini-novel.
    (Yes – mid 50’s – and still breathing and still….)

  13. Rejected
    Reply

    I’m in the same situation, and it hurts so bad when my husband rejects me which is most of the time. And on the “special” occasion when we do have sex, he doesn’t satisfy me because he only last for about 5min.
    He used to practise self restraint but now he only cares about his satisfaction. I have talked to him about this but it always ends in an argument.
    He doesn’t touch me or kiss me during that 5min. I must just sit on him or he will lay behind my back and do what needs to be done. If he does touch me he squeezes my breast and gives me a kiss then he enters me and everything is over.
    I end up crying everytime. To the outside world he is the charmer of ladies, flirts, but when it comes to sex with me then its always an issue.
    I rather want to supress my sexual desire than be so unhappy.

  14. Helping hand
    Reply

    Go to a professional counselor or a member of the clergy to all of those who are having problems including unhappyman. Seek advice now.

  15. TM
    Reply

    I don’t know what to do any more. I have a very high sex drive. I could do it 3 times a day or more.
    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and live together. At first things were good…we had sex about 3 times or more a week. Now he doesn’t want it at all or at least not with me.
    I have tried to talk to him about what is going on and why. He tells me he doesn’t crave sex, he doesn’t like doing “it” during the day time, he says he is tired, he even will fall asleep while I am stroking his cock and he is hard (or maybe he is just pretending so he doesn’t have to have sex with me).
    Yet, I have found out he is surfing porn and jacking off every time he is home alone. I don’t understand. I have bought sexy nighties, suggested watching porn together, I tell him daily how handsome and sexy he is and yet nothing.
    I am 51 and look pretty good for my age. I stay fit at 115 pounds and I’m 5 ft 2 in. I don’t want my sex drive any more. It hurts too much to be rejected and turned down time and time again. There has to be something to turn a woman’s sex drive off.

  16. Scott
    Reply

    Did any of you find a product to help? This is a problem I am also having. I will not give any details. But really need help. And dose it help from feeling so very depressed?

  17. GTH
    Reply

    CD and JRH (re your comments fr June of last year) I read hundreds of these and CD yours looks like a carbon copy of my predicament. I’m also amazed at how many women have posted and how similar their stories are to the men’s. it’s oddly comforting.
    That said, may we all find resolution. I refuse to believe its a sin or social malady to have a high sex drive. The issue is compatability. Unfortunately, when there are children, wonderful children involved, your life isn’t so much about you anymore.
    CD, you said your wife’s libido dropped like Facebook stock (thought we all could use some humour) when she started taking anti anxiety medication. It seems to me you have all our answer.
    Start taking it. Moreover, tell us all what it is! It seems we are all sick of dealing with a common issue, love our SOs and just want it (libido) to go away. I don’t care about side effects.

  18. tm
    Reply

    I understand your frustration I have the same problem. I to wish there was some kind of magic pill to shut off my sex drive.

  19. Mh
    Reply

    I typed in libido suppresent and I came across this site. My husband and I have been together for over 16 years. I’m only 34 he’s a few years older and we have 2 kids; but I’m the one who wants to have sex MORE.
    I love him he really is a great guy but sex once every two-3 months is so frustrating to me. I would prefer 2-3 a week.
    What I dot understand is that I initiate over 95% of the time and I’m rejected 94.5% of the time.
    I try not to ask but it’s so hard to just keep my drive to myself. I want the intamacy it’s not just te sexual act. Sometimes I just cry myself to sleep feeling so rejected- that’s the hardest part.
    He says he loves me I tell him I have needs and I just feel insignificant in his life. On his priority list I don’t even think I make it on the list.
    I honestly feel like I’m going to burst.
    I work and am busy with the kids and I still express interest. The saddest thing is I can’t even get him to sleep with me he usually “falls” asleep on the couch- which is ironic bc when he did sleep in the bed all I ever wanted was him to touch in some sort of way then I became so resentful and it was hard to just lay there with him I wished he would sleep on the couch. Now I’m just behind lonely.
    But since I will never step out in him this is what I have to look forward too i wih I could just take a pill to make me not interested in him.

    • Devall
      St. Landry
      Reply

      This is crazy read your post. You are a female of thirty five and I am a male of 35 however our sex lives are identical in the frustration department.

  20. help
    Reply

    I am a 21 year old female and swear I have a male libido.
    Most guys would find that attractive but of course I had to fall madly in love with a guy who has a low limbido. Every time I go to him and try to let him know I’m in the mood he pushes me away or groans like “not again!”
    I feel like I’m annoying him constantly! I also can’t help but feel like I’m unattractive or unwanted. We get into fights frequently because of it and I feel like I’m the cause of it even though I can’t help it!
    I get so frusterated at him and at myself. I just wish my sex drive was gone! I don’t want to depend on pills but heard sodas and licorice lower sex drive.
    I’m cramming in as much of that as I can but is there Anything else???
    Please help~ashley
    PEOPLE’S PHARMACY RESPONSE:
    Please do NOT overdose on licorice and soda! Although it is true that licorice can lower libido by affecting hormone levels, it can affect the body in many other ways. Too much natural licorice can lead serious side effects. This comes from the entry in our Herb Library under Licorice:
    Adverse Effects of Licorice:
    • High blood pressure
    • Low levels of potassium
    • Fluid retention and swelling of the face and limbs
    • Hormonal imbalance, and muscle destruction leading to pain and weakness
    A woman ate too much licorice candy lost a great deal of potassium; her heart stopped.
    Licorice can also change heart rhythms, prolonging QT and PR intervals on an electrocardiogram.
    Lethargy and fatigue as well as weakness are part of the picture of licorice toxicity.
    Many of the negative symptoms associated with licorice are due to its ability to inhibit the renin-angiotensin system. Elderly people in particular are susceptible to kidney problems as a consequence of licorice.
    Paralysis of the legs (and in one case, of all of the limbs) has been reported. A sixty-four-year-old man developed pulmonary edema, signaled by fatigue and trouble breathing, after eating four packages of black Twizzlers licorice candy in three days. This case demonstrates how quickly a serious reaction can arise.
    Licorice can reduce thyroid gland activity and lower the basal metabolic rate.
    As for too much soda, the impact on your weight and metabolism are well established.
    We hope you can encourage your partner to engage in couples counseling. That would be a far healthier way to deal with the frustration you are going through. Sex counseling might also be beneficial.

  21. It has to be something...
    Reply

    I always think there is a reason for everything. I was married for 20 years. Raised by a mom who said sex is fun and both parents seemed to enjoy sex and find each other sexy. My husband and I had a good physical relationship. Frequency was a couple of times a week. Have to admit there was a lot of partying (alcohol), that could have caused us to be more casual with each other. Too much alcohol caused a divorce.
    So, then I dated a lot of men. Not tons, but you know, a few here and there over the years that I was divorced. EVERY serious relationship included good sex. Some better than others. Some had issues, but nothing that stopped the sex…
    Then I met a man who I have now been living with for almost 10 years. I noticed early on that he didn’t initiate much. He did at first, but then we would go away for a weekend of fun and … nothing! hmmm. So I asked him about it. He said I should just let him know when ever I wanted sex. Are you kidding? That means he never wanted it? Well.. that is off balance for me.
    While most everything else is good in our relationship, he never tells me I am pretty (unlike all the other men I’ve known). When we get ready to go out, all dolled up, he asks me how good he looks! I’ve joked with him and talked with him seriously and a few years in (perhaps I said something that he will never get over, but I don’t know that… he just doesn’t talk about it). We started sleeping separately. He gained weight but is still super handsome and he complained of severe back pains the morning after sex and after sleeping in bed with me.
    I’ve given up. I don’t feel attractive. I have no interest in having sex with someone who doesn’t find me attractive and with the added weight, he crushes me when he is on top. So, we no longer have sex. I miss it, but I am unwilling to work on something when the other person is not willing to work on it too. That just seems hopeless to me.
    It is unfortunate, but reading this site, I can see there are probably many, many small reasons we don’t have sex. Could be the balance of power in the relationship. Could be that we never drink, so we never get silly. Could be the weight. Could be that I don’t touch him in the right way. He pets me hard like you would tussle with a big dog. Never gentle. Could be childhood messages that he did or didn’t get from his parents. His ex-wife left him because she had sex with someone else. I frankly can’t blame her, but I would never cheat on him, because he is good to me in so many other ways.
    Could be so many things. It’s OK. We have a nice life, 24 hours a day, he is kind to me. I appreciate hearing from everyone on this site, that so many others are facing the same situation as I am. In this puzzle I think we should all be open to the possibilities that it could be something so difficult to say, or if said, hurts the other person so deeply. Sometimes, things don’t fit right, don’t feel right, there are deep childhood messages that might be too overwhelming to tackle.
    Thank you all for sharing.

  22. DN
    Reply

    Tony, you are lucky, you have youth on your side – run while you still can. I am forty four and have fifteen years invested in my relationship. Some great years and then some very hard ones. I feel like I can’t give up now but you can. You can get a life with someone who fulfills you in every way. I wish you all the best.

  23. TM
    Reply

    I’m so glad I found this site. I truely thought something was wrong with me. I have a very high sex drive I always have and wish I didn’t. My boyfreind doesn’t seem to have any intrest in sex at all. I feel rejected, unattractive, and “broken”.
    My boyfreind actually made a comment the other day that I should have been a boy with the sex drive I have. Ouch that hurt.
    I’m to the point that I cry most of the time I don’t sleep very much. This is tearing me apart. I love him very much and I know he loves me but, I’m beginning to think I can’t live like this. Is there really medication that can lower a person’s sex drive?

  24. Very unhappy husband NS
    Reply

    This is unreal that so many people are going through what I’m going through. I can tell you the day our sex life took an immediate dive. 6 years ago my wife fell on some ice after work and hurt her hip. She went to the doctor the next day and he prescribed her narcotic percocet pain pills. She got addicted to them unfortunately and ever since she has had zero sex drive.
    I have sat down and talked with her about this several times but it goes nowhere. Im to the point that divorce seems inevitable. I would be happy with 2-3 times per week but lucky to get sex once a month and thats only after im so pissed off about it shes just does it to shut me up.
    After that long she will still have the nerve to roll over in the bed and tell me to hurry the F up and get this over with. Im so sick of this I cant explain my frustration. I’ve read alot of the above post and can totally relate to how you just yern for your wife to desire you and want you, but that has been so long for me that I dont remember how it feels.
    I know that if a woman showed me the passion and desire I yearn for that my wife will be getting left real quick. It troubles me to say that, but I can only take so much.
    Cannot believe I found this forum from goggle searching for something that would lower my sex drive. Obviously looks like nobody actually knows anything for that though. I was hoping to find something I could pick up at the local pharmacy or vitamin store. Not looking to go to the doctor and get prescibed some bs that screws me up in every other way than what im lookin for. I wish everyone luck with this problem.

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