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Erectile Problems Threaten Marriage

Q. My question is about ED. My wife really turns me on, but I always lose my erections.


When I lose it, I have trouble getting another one. Often we do not finish because of my problem and I get frustrated. She has a strong sex drive and gets frustrated, too. At times I give her excuses, like I’m tired or I don’t feel well. She thinks I do not want to be with her, but I do. I’m just afraid of failing.


My wife would never cheat on me but I don’t want to frustrate her more so she considers it. Is there anything over the counter that would help?

A. You and 18 million other American men suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED). It is nothing to be ashamed of.

There are several medications that can help, but none are available without a prescription. When you see your doctor, make sure he checks your hormone and cholesterol levels. Sometimes ED can be a symptom of cardiovascular problems.

Drugs like Viagra, Cialis or Levitra may help but are by no means the only solution. Your physician may prescribe another kind of medicine or even suggest a vacuum device that may help you maintain your erection.

A qualified sex therapist can also provide you and your wife with useful advice. Open communication will help her better understand what you are going through.

Q. Your column about quinine really upset me. I have been taking it for leg cramps for many years and it has helped me incredibly. I have none of the symptoms you described.

My doctor keeps renewing my prescription. I can’t believe she would keep doing that if what you wrote is true. I am very skeptical about your information.

A. The FDA has decided that quinine is too dangerous to be used against leg cramps. Some people are susceptible to a life-threatening blood disorder triggered by quinine. As a result, soon doctors will only be allowed to prescribe it for malaria.

For the vast numbers of people like you who have taken quinine safely, the FDA’s action will be painful. One reader suggested an alternative:

“At one time I used Legatrin, but it is no longer available. Now when I get leg cramps, I drink a small bottle of tonic water. Within a minute the cramps subside.”

We are sending you our Guide to Leg Pain with other suggestions against cramps and restless legs. Anyone who would like a copy, please send $2 in check or money order with a long (no. 10) stamped (63 cents), self-addressed envelope: Graedons' People's Pharmacy, No. RLS-5, P. O. Box 52027, Durham, NC 27717-2027. It can also be downloaded for $2 from the Website: www.peoplespharmacy.com.

Q. I have been taking Zetia for four months with dramatic results. My cholesterol count went from 240 down to 183.


I am thrilled, but I have noticed pain in my legs. It is difficult to sleep as I massage them to make them feel better. The soreness and tiredness remind me of pain after strenuous exercise like running.


I would not agree to take statin drugs to correct my high LDL and low HDL levels because I know statin drugs can cause leg pain. Isn’t Zetia different?

A. Zetia (ezetimibe) works differently from statin drugs such as Lipitor or Zocor. Instead of blocking the creation of cholesterol, Zetia interferes with absorption of cholesterol from the intestines. Despite this difference, people taking Zetia sometimes report muscle or joint pain. Please let your doctor know about this reaction.

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About the Author
Joe Graedon is a pharmacologist who has dedicated his career to making drug information understandable to consumers. His best-selling book, The People’s Pharmacy, was published in 1976 and led to a syndicated newspaper column, syndicated public radio show and web site. In 2006, Long Island University awarded him an honorary doctorate as “one of the country's leading drug experts for the consumer.”.
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